You build your own destiny so you are NOT destined to relapse. Their comments anger me a little like "do what I say or you'll be doomed". The more tools you have the better, definitely, but you have to find what works for you! You are the captain of your life and you make it what it is like. It might be good advice but this is YOUR journey so YOU have to feel comfortable. I'm glad to see you went to a meeting but that is not the end all be all. You can attend hundreds of meetings but if you still drink it's not working. It's not external factors that are going to keep you sober. It is you, you and then a little of you. External factors and tools might help you but this is your battle. We are here to help you in the fight. Remember: you build your own destiny!!!