Lillamy, Love your post. You may not be a preacher or a theologian, but you can be my spiritual co-stumbler any day.
Soverylost, You and I quite possibly come from the same faith tradition. Mine also doesn't recognize divorce. To be specific though, the issue only arrises when someone wants to remarry. The vast majority of people practicing my faith now realize that no person should be forced to stay in a marriage that has been damaged by the trauma of addiction. In fact, that addiction often results in the original marriage vow being broken. Thus grounds for annulment.
Regarding your relationship with your HP. It took me a while to realize that I was doing a lot of talking in my relationship with Him, and not nearly enough listening. I realize now, He was screaming at me to leave. I was just too busy loudly praying at Him to hear. While I was busy getting mad at Him for "abandoning me", I believe He was getting annoyed with me for ignoring the obvious.