I second Lillamy's post. They're not always lucky. Every once in a while, I still find myself thinking that about AXH, but then I realize it's (now) been almost 2.5 years since he's seen the most amazing, brilliant little kid. 2.5 years since his actions lost him even supervised visitation rights. This is years after AXH threatened to make it so _I_ never saw DS again.
DS is not so little any more; he'll be 10 soon and he has grown so much since he was 7. AXH has missed over 2 years of watching this beautiful soul explore the world and grow; missed the highs and lows, the excitement and tears, the "Momma, I did *THIS*!"s and the heartbroken "WHY??"s, the enthusiastic participations and the grudging "Fine!"s, and all of the 'mundane' days between. Whether AXH knows it or not, that is beyond sad and one of the steepest prices his addiction will make him pay.