I totally agree with you. We didn't drink anything away. In fact, I'm pretty sure we just amplified and made it even more difficult for us to deal with them, which is why early sobriety is such a tricky b1tch.
We numbed ourselves for so long, we're lost at first with how to process and actually DEAL and FEEL these things that "normal" (whatever that is) people do all the time.
Our toolbox is empty. We need to start from scratch and relearn things. Hell, LEARN things. I don't know what I would have done if I wasn't eligible for counselling....it has been a lifesaver for me. To have an unbiased person help walk me through a few things I have no idea where to even start with.
Some sessions leave me depleted bigtime. But it is so worth it.
I love the "emotional defrosting"
clever
and true! that's what it feels like.