Thank you Dandylion!
I did see her (lifelong) pediatrician yesterday, we have been dealing with this in lesser forms for...well, since before she could speak, with anxiety/screaming. Her take is to be MUCH MORE STRUCTURED. And, I am a very "hippie", "what will be, will be", "just roll with it" kind of chick. So the structure requirement she is suggesting is terrifying, for me. I mean, we do have structure, hard and fast (mostly) bedtime, veggie/fruit requirements, chores, etc.
DD is 5yo.
We have had a lot of life changes in the past year or two.
The dr did give me some pointers/resources. I'm just very frightened that i'll eff it (and her) up.
I was just looking for some personal experience/tips/resource suggestions from ppl that have come through this.