He said all my wires are crisscrossed in my brain and its just a matter of getting them connected to the right circuits.. that its like a right handed person always remembering to reach with their left but it can be done.
that's exactly the process i had to go thru getting off crack cocaine. my circuitry was shot to hell, every stinking wire hitched to exactly one thing. but every time i said NO, every time i made a better choice, rode out a trigger and did not "cave" the synapses started to fire off in different sequences, re-establishing "healthier" pathways, and the little nuerons didn't just crash and burn when they jumped off the crack cliff.
the toothpaste analogy is a perfect example - so much of what we do is so ingrained (good AND bad) that we bypass conscious thought. our brains are teachable, it just takes patience and time.