exparatrooper...you have no idea what stories she may be telling them...and what spin she may be putting on them. The reality is that the family will come down on the side of their child....not always....but, most of the time.
I know that this is very hurtful to your feelings---naturally, it is.
But this is just the harsh reality.
But, let me tell you, paratrooper....these hurts are only paper cuts compared to the sea wall of pain that would come had you married and had k ids with her.
This is short-term pain for long-term gain.
I do have a lot of empathy for your current pain, though.
You might want to take the time to read "Co-dependent No More". I think you would get a lot out of it, right now. You will need this info. in the future, also!
dandylion