I wondered about your username. Were you with the 82nd? I spent some time at Ft. Bragg in '05/'06 before I deployed.
Anyway, congratulations on getting your degree and sorry about the missed opportunity, hopefully there will be others.
But that is actually what I mean. Look at how much her drinking interfered with your life and your plans. That happened because you allowed it to. I know that in the midst of the chaos it is easy to get lost in the endless cycle of drinking and abuse so that you spend all your time and energy on QRF fixing problems the alcoholic creates. Now you have a chance to step back and see the big picture, to understand and take ownership for your choices.