Originally Posted by
spia 
My AH is new to recovery. And it's so sad to see how everyone is relapsing. I just really want to hear that yes he can do it. Because I am not ready to accept he won't. If that makes sense?
And yes. This totally makes sense. I was saying the same thing in January when my husband was first attempting sobriety. Relapses aren't always bad, there can be very valuable lessons to be learned from relapses. But that doesn't apply to us because we aren't alcoholics.
Focusing on outcomes and future tripping, that's our problem. You cannot control or forecast your husband's sobriety. He can't even do that.
Sending you hugs. I know exactly where you're coming from and things do get easier for you if you work on yourself.
