Your kids deserve a hell of a lot better than living with an alcoholic. They'd be better off in a homeless shelter than at home with him. I should know, I've done it with my own kids. Young children don't know what's best for them. You are supposed to be making those decisions for them. And as far as family goes, who cares what any of them think? You don't have a problem, you just have solutions that you don't like. For the sake of the children, get up and be a strong mom who would do anything to protect her kids. There's no excuse for not doing everything you can to provide them with the best life possible.