Hi there, in answer to your question, I left early one morning with a few bags, no warning, I just left a note. So there was no discussion, just as sudden as that, and he hit rock bottom pretty much straight away and was admitted to detox. Has since been doing AA and is 6 months sober, I believe. Didn't change his spots, though! Before I left, he never made a serious attempt to discuss the problem or make a change. His behaviour was getting more violent so I just quit while I was ahead. I knew that otherwise nothing would ever change. That was the only way I could set some strict boundaries - no contact now for 7 months and we only communicate through lawyers.