I do think there is a learning curve and boy, I believe I have learned a lot.
Would I have done things differently if I had understood addiction, absolutely. However, I was very naive. My STBXAH was originally prescribed the pills, not that it matters, but I just "assumed" because the DR prescribed it, it was not an issue. Today, I would not just assume anything about drugs/addiction.
I thought I could just tell him to stop taking them, and that would be it. In fact, I believed it was. When I realized the problem was worse then I thought, I believed I could help him, that my love, our love would win out. I learned through many tears, that love had NOTHING to with addiction.
But more importantly, I have learned so much about myself through all this. I am glad I wasn't arrogant enough to believe he was the only one that had the problem. I tried to stay open minded and learn from those who walked before me. I still have a long way to go, but as long as I keep learning and moving forward, it's worth the journey.