When he says in sickness and in health and agree with him
Then when he is sober and shows that loving side ask him to seek help for himself say I stayed thru sickness no more of that I want to stay through your health now and the only way to stay healthy is to at first stay sober
If it continues I fear for the outcome enabling and god knows what else
Also al anon is a beautiful thing my gf started going before i got sober and it enraged me it was like she was addressing my problem for me somehow it was lil things like that.. That made me realise how lost I actually was
Thank the stars for my gf as i couldn't have stayed sober without her help love and support in the beginning Iget to hear her snore at night when she's asleep
She is an angel