Originally Posted by
natehamburg 
Ok can someone please explain what it means to "BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF"??? I mean I will never be fully happy with myself. I am always to fat or my face is to big...not manly enough,dont make enough, not talented enough...etc. always room for improvement
Be happy with yourself (example) = take pride in your work, your fitness, your relationships with family, your relationships with friends, what you give back to the community, etc. Tying your happiness to a relationship, and only a relationship, is a recipe for trouble regardless of your history with alcohol and substances.
Also, have you ever considered talking to a shrink or something like that? The solution to low self-esteem cannot be "I don't have alcohol in my life." You know deep down that cannot be the answer. It's nonsensical.