When I was in my early 20's and even older, and drinking, I had lots of "boyfriends". I just thought everyone who was any fun drank. What I didn't realize at the time was that these were not meaningful relationships. They were basically one night stands, although some lasted for longer. They were a result of the lack of respect I had for myself and my wild partying ways. On the surface, I thought I was popular and having a lot of fun. Drinking and partying is no way to find a good relationship.