I think sometimes we can expect a wee bit too much from sobriety...especially EARLY sobriety. How can we do relationship when we can't even do everyday life? I certainly understand your loneliness and yearning for "other"..but that's just another illusion..another escape.
I think our greatest struggle is simply our acceptance of life... however pedestrian it can be. It's up to us to change ourselves and our perspectives...and when we can accept regular old life...well, then we can find delight in simpler things...not the high rollin ridiculous drama of alcohol. We used alcohol to change our mood..to make the mundane more palatable.
Life is life. We need to get used to it...and if it's boring, we need to "grow" it...not take some lazy shortcut of a bottle.