Chic, I'm considered a "dry drunk" by some in that I do not follow a formal program.
you've painted him into a corner, he has to conform to get what he wants...Internet. No one has ever told him he has to work for what he wants before, he is 42? 41? years old. this is a new concept for him. As long as he is not screeching vile names at you, don't pay him no mind, let it digest.
have a good day and don't pay attention to the catty ones.