Thanks for your posts Tansy....I recognise myself so much in what you say so its been very enlightening for me. I'm glad you've worked so hard on yourself to not only identify the causes and issues, but to actually understand them deeply enough in your heart that you don't go about making the same mistakes again.
I sometimes wonder if I have an oxytocin deficiency.....that sex, move in, get to know routine is exactly what I do!!!
Ex last time I did it the routine was sex, GET PREGNANT, move in, get to know.
Never, ever again!!! As much as I love my little boy.....it's landed an innocent being in this quagmire of poo.