The good news for today is my former partner checked himself into sober living today. That's good news. For today. Yesterday, I went stag to our final couple's counselling session and was asked by our therapist about myself, I said, I'm strong, I made a life for myself, like everyone else, I overcame the obstacles of my family, my past, my weakness. And he asked me what I think I saw in my former partner. "I saw the me I couldn't save from my past, " I said without thinking and just started sobbing. It was a very good and very sudden epiphany. In the end we all can only save ourselves. Later I went to Al-anon and was asked to read the "What is an alcoholic" portion of the meeting and then I talked about my "pressing problem" having never spoken in the group before except to introduce myself. I'm hopeful for my partner, that he will solve his problems on his own. I'm hopeful, certain, for me. It is a lesson learned.