Take a deep breath KI... this too shall pass although I understand how terribly hard it is for you right now. Perhaps a call to a stress center is in order to get you through the next few days to help you process it all. Your world as you know it has crumbled beneath you and is TERRIBLY UNFAIR. You DO NOT DESERVE this. But it is happening and out of your control. And you car getting vandalized is just kicking you while you're already down. I pray for strength for you to get through this terrible phase. Thank God you're at least alive and have not been hurt by that creature that you used to call "husband". I'm so sorry he turned out to be such a hurtful fake. But thank God he didn't mame or even KILL you. Speaking of psychopaths/sociopaths, does Scott Peterson ring a bell? They are capable of ANYTHING. Hang in there. We're here for you, too.