I have been Chic (though not with a child, just someone else who had problems). I was her for decades. I've lost friends who got tired of me not " getting it", luckily just regained one of those friendships after about 20 years.
Sometimes I forget the person I used to be. I can share MY ES&H, but I can't fix anyone. The one thing I can do is support babybsteps or I can step away from a thread when I have nothing else to offer.
Chic - you've been terrified of turning off the Internet and though you can still do your email and get on SR, your son is "cut off". That was a huge step and it was also an eye opener as to how he's handled it. Good for you!
I only pray that we each find a way to find serenity and peace, no matter what is going on with our loved ones.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy