Blossom, there are reliable people out there that are stable and healthy. At the job I have, I am good friends with my co workers and their spouses. Many of them have good, healthy relationships. When husband says he is stopping for gas on the way home, that means he is getting gas, not booze. He will be home after that, and if not will call with a legit reason. He will work hard and have a good stable relationship with wife and children. He will do things he also enjoys with men and encourage wife to do things with women she enjoys.
I am in a relatively small office. If I can have a ratio of stable people around me that is quite high, they are out there. We just need to raise the bar in what we expect.