Hi Blossom.
That is a good question! I struggle with this too.
Last week my own counselor had some miscommunication with me for 6 days. I felt 'justified' being irked bc of all people this person knows I do not trust people and I accepted his help and his follow through was poor to none. Well when he finally did do what he said he would (after I emailed again), my H told me the world did not revolve around me and I expected too much.
I struggle with this!