ReyingToLearn.....maybe it would be easier to see your way out if you realized that it is YOU keeping you there and not HIM. Of course, he is responsible for being an Ass****, but you are responsible for your reaction to his ASS****ness.
What I am trying to say to you is: This has been going on for a very long time and what is going to enable you to be able to leave will be focusing on yourself. He isn't going to change from who he is.
dandylion