Thanks LMN. I think he would leave in a heartbeat if he had a car, money, and friends who could take him in. But he is pretty much stuck, and I cannot put him out to be homeless. I tried that once, and won't go that route.
I am taking the long way...lol...
It really helps to read about others who have had this sort of experience. It gives me something to compare this to.
I am glad your family member found happiness. That is just wonderful. I could only hope my son could be that sane, as to be able to make it. Who knows, my next adventure may be getting strong enough to throw him out.. heaven knows I hope not! but I plan on not fixing things as much, less and less, and make things more and more uncomfortable.
I do not think he believes in his self. maybe my fault
Heaven help us.
and thank you for sharing! It helps.