please don't allow him to BULLY an THREATEN you...ask for help, your son in law can step in where the crisis center is too slow. you need someone to tell him how it is, not how he can push you around. really, be careful and do not let him get near you.
I worry and do not like the way he is acting towards you with such disrespect.
LMF once punched me (at age 16) and cracked my rib.
I jumped over the coffee table and punched back.....it was not a pretty mommy moment...but I was much younger and agile.