AXH was constantly blowing through both of our paychecks... As a result, all of the bills, which were mainly in my name, were always past due. All winter long, I'd be staving off the utility disconnect notices; the collection agencies for the other bills... Then I was an ungrateful, money grubbing, b when I'd get mad when he'd "apologize" by buying extravagant gifts for me or DS. When he'd decide we needed a new credit line, it was always in my name only.
It's taken a long time to dig myself out of that hole. You can bet I took all of it with me when I left, because it was all in my name and I couldn't trust him to abide by any payment agreements. And during the divorce, he had the guts to say I left him holding all of the bills. Thing is I had the payment confirmation receipts and proof that the funds came out of my own account that he was never on.