I'm struggling boroughs no contact with my boyfriend. I give a bunch of false ultimatums. I know as long as I stay in touch with him I am letting him think I am okay with his using. And sometimes try to convince myself I am too, at least I will have him in my life as a bf if I pretend to be okay with it. But just like an addict we have to admit things to ourselves as well. An addict will lie for many reasons. But no addict wants to hurt those they love, so maybe no contact is better. No lies or manipulation or emotional abuse. Have you tried mother/daughter counseling?