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Here come the paragraphs of disdain from him. Let me type it verbatim
"you've been 'uncomfortable' for years. You kissed my A** goodbye along time ago and stopped treating me like I was a real person with feelings. I wish we would have done this sooner before the kids got in the way now we are stuck having to communicate."
Drum Roll Please...
"I probably would have stopped drinking along time ago if it weren't for the way you treated me. I squashed all of the pain of being alone and thrown away with alchohol while you watched the same Law and Order for the 10th time. How do you want me to feel? All happy go skippy?"
Responding is beneath me (at least today) but for the record, I have been trying to leave for at least 2 years but he convinced me to stay because "things were going to change"
I begged him to stop drinking long before I mentally "checked out"
Lastly, how conveinent that he has shared all his "reasons" for drinking with me over the years and none of them included me, until I left.
It is pathetic and sad.
You didn't cause it, you can't change it and you can't cure it.[/QUOTE]
Oh wow I am sorry but when I read the message he sent I laughed not because I thought it was funny but his indignation about how poorly you treated him. Poor him.....not. I mean seriously. Has he stopped drinking since you left then if it was all your fault!! Has he stopped to think how his drinking impacted you & the kids, I doubt it!!!!!
I have been fortunate my Separated AH didn't blame me for his addiction although when we argued he would have used that as an excuse, or if he was struggling with something that was how he coped......poor him....not.
Well done for not responding I don't know if I could have been so strong and ignored that.
Are they all really so self centred that they think their drinking doesn't hurt any one and what that we beg, cry and plead because we want to ruin their fun!! I am starting to see how selfish my AH is and only thinks about himself and the more I think about our marriage he always did. Mine keeps telling me this is what's best for me and the kids that's how he justifies it to himself that he walked away from us and he thinks seeing our son once a week for about an hour is being there for him!! He sees my daughter less than that as she can't be bothered with him!!
Sorry for the rant the text he sent you made me feel angry.