is it selfish of me?
AH is going away on business for two weeks. I am looking forward to the break, i want to work on myself while he is gone. I find it easier to not obsess about his drinking or if he is still on the wagon when he's not home.
Is it selfish of me to tell him this before he goes? Apologize for trying to control his sobriety, asking pointed questions about how he is doing? It would clear the air on my side, i like it when things are spelled out clearly and concisely. AH doesn't. He hates talking about his drinking or not drinking, he feels i define him that way and he is more than just an alcoholic. He'll be uncomfortable.
Alternately, i could send him an email when he goes, and that way he can choose to read or delete.
Is this selfish of me?