I'm really struggling with this because the situation is triggering my codependent fear of abandonment big time. Hiring my own attorney and refusing the offer to rent back my house requires me to overcome the guilt I feel when I assert myself, and of course my fear of change and lack of trust in myself and others is in overdrive. It's like a crash course on tackling my own co-dependency. (Thanks, HP!) I just wish the kids weren't all caught up in it. I agree it's best to keep them in the home, but how do I achieve this and also avoid a situation that causes my codependency to worsen?