Guilt is definitely there for me. Especially because of the relationship I developed with my step daughter.
She has no real friends, she has treated them all the same way she treated me and they all had enough, it seems to be her pattern. She doesn't trust anybody. The only thing I can think to do is talk to her on the phone about it and gauge if it would even be safe to meet her in person. She has thrown things at me in the past so from what I hear it can always escalate from there.
I just know that the marriage I wanted is not possible with her now or ever. It's sad and I am grieving that at the moment. Thanks for the replies.