Hi Clutch B, I just wanted to mention that once you start standing up for yourself with him, if things do NOT change and his unacceptable reactions toward you continue or worsen, you could be looking at a larger problem here... perhaps some mental condition or disorder on his part. I'm not saying it to alarm you, but just don't discount that there could be a personality disorder issue here. If he does not improve over time, you might need to take a step back and reconsider some things in this marriage. Just my two cents.