Ditto. Hubbie took a hard line approach. I could choose A or B. Hurt like no tomorrow but since there was a child in the middle if the situations were reversed I'd likely be giving him the same ultimatum. I've started attending SMART meetings. Harsh as it may sound I've seen other addicts both in outpatient therapy and meetings where their S/O's let them off the hook again and again and they also keep relapsing. For me I don't regard relapse as an option. I believe I'd be tossed out and frankly I"m not inclined to test it. Not worth it to me.