Fandy, yes, it is quite a process! NO WONDER I drug my feet for so long... actually, I think I kept hoping that things would get better, and gave him time to change.
I told him that what is happening here nowadays isn't helping , but hindering him. He can't see that, but I hope that someday he does, because that would mean that he will have gotten his head on straight. I really think that counsel would do him a freaking world of good!
hugs!