Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
Oh I hate agreeing with Thumper on this one, but it fits his M.O. He's displaying all the external "show" of a recovery without ever REALLY making it past Step 1, IMO. His history is so relevant here because he has proven to be able to sustain illusions for pretty good lengths of time before losing his control on it. (((((hugs))))) Liz, I hope you continue to take steps to ensure your independence.
Yes, this! He's a lot of things, but a recovering alcoholic isn't it. He hasn't shown any true signs of recovery. Blame-shifting, gaslighting, all of his kind games aren't recovery. He's a dry drunk, not an RAH.