Thanks GardenMama - your so right ...... I keep thinking of all the " little things" that she might not be able to do for herself which then will fall on me ( ie moving her things out of an appt in my name if she fails to show up and do it ) instead of just planning that it will fall on me so just get it on the schedule, be done with it and NEVER place myself in this end indentured servant role again....... More Drama More Brain BS More same ole same ole.... I'm just not going to let my mind wonder this way - I have to take a stand for me because frankly no one else will