Why do I stay?
Simple. I'm a dysfunctional human. Just like you. Hi, Pot. I'm Kettle.
Also, I know that simply leaving my marriage doesn't really solve the whole problem just as when an addict just stops using it doesn't really solve the whole problem. Alcoholism is but a symptom. Same thing works here.
Staying with abusive people doesn't make much logical sense, right? That's how I view addiction. I have compassion for people who are addicts but at the end of the day, I'll never understand the compulsion to consume substances just like I don't expect you to understand what it's like over here to stay with someone who hurts you.
Lately when I find myself thinking about why other people do what they do (or feeling like calling people out for their own dysfunction), I realize that I'm looking for a distraction from figuring myself out or an excuse to prove that I'm not THAT bad.