Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
If THAT'S a fair question, then so is this:
Why don't you & every other addict just STOP USING and then there's nothing for any of us to deal with at all? Isn't that the same kind of black & white mentality you are asking in your question?:
Lol FireSprite, I was tempted to say this same thing. BUT, having grown up with a mother who "got rid of her problem", as she likes to say, by leaving my alcoholic father, I know it's not that simple. She simply turned her codependent energy to other areas of her life. Mostly on my brother and me, but also to her other relationships as well (work, family, friends). She also suffers from paranoid schizophrenia, which makes it extra fun.
For anyone on either side who is not truly working a recovery I think that scapegoating and lack of self-reflection will always be weapons which are used to bludgeon others.
Anyone who comes from a toxic family of origin can make that choice not to spend time with people who verbally or emotionally abuse them.