"He's never had any issue telling me when I make a mistake."
"But instead, he lashes out at me, and tells me that my hurt feelings are my problem, and to get over it. That really hurts. It makes me feel like he doesn't care about my well-being. It makes me feel like he doesn't respect me."
ill take your hubby inventory here:
wheres the 10th step in his life? is HE taking personal inventory and finding out why he has himself on a pedestal? why he places himself above you? please tell yer hubby that if this is how he acts im thinkin he should practice the principles AND traditions in his home life. 25 years in the program makes him no better than the person with one day.
we grovel before no one and aren't door mats.
I don't see it being an acceptance thing unless you want to keep being treated like a doormat. keep standing up for yourself.
I love these words from music:
I TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT ME!!
amazing how when I finally understood I didn't have to be a doormat and was allowed to stand up for myself how relationships changed. some people walked away from me when I wouldn't let them use me as a doormat and some started respecting me and the relationships grew healthier.