His behavior and using the program of AA against you, is unacceptable...period. We teach people how to treat us, what are you teaching him?
I remember when I didn't like the way I was being treated by my former husband and my then Sponsor said to me. "Well, if you don't like the footprints on your back....stand up!"
I have to admit that I didn't like it when she said that...but it was the simple truth. The footprints are no longer on my back and neither is my former husband!! lol