Sounds like your days of being a doormat are about to end. Good for you.
His reaction to the change is his problem. I wouldn't worry about it.
Sometimes I.........say nothing and just let the person's ugly words hang in the air, like a fart.
Sometimes I .........laugh and say, "Thank you for sharing!"
Sometimes I .........wince and say, "Ouch!" No further remark is usually needed.
And Sometimes I have been heard to be muttering the serenity prayer as I exit the room quickly.
My favorite action is to say......"Hold that thought. Gotta pee." And then let them sit there and contemplate what they just did. Take your time in the bathroom.
Good luck in sobriety!
and, btw.....it's not kosher to use program as a weapon in marriage. You could make a joke of it and say, "Well, is this where I get to say back to you.....'call ur sponsor?"
Then again, better not. lol