he's 41 years old, not 12....Let him figure it out....get out of the way. you have given him MONTHS to prepare to do what you require...He needs to put on the big boy pants and do this...he is NOT mentally feeble. but he needs to grow up.
supporting his "denial" won't help him. it is just giving him a soft pillow to bury his head in.
this might be the root of his problems, mama in her super-cape makes the safe tent.
I think he is smart enough to KNOW he can BS you until the cows come home...don't buy the crap
You should worry about YOURSELF and what YOU need. you are supposing too much to let him figure anything out.
chocolate dipped macaroons?