Hi windancer
No judgements here, but I hope you feel better for relieving yourself of that burden
If you've been taking benzoes or tylenol for a while, do think about seeing your Dr - they can check you over and probably offer you some advice and assistance
As for your partner you need to tell him that you need to keep that drinking door
shut locked and bolted, no matter what he might think is best, or what mixed signals you might have given him over time.
He may not understand why, but he needs to respect your decision.
D