Well in my experience is that it's almost like a double edged sword. When my AH husband uses that's terrible. When he throws himself into recovery I feel like I'm still pushed to the side. Are things better when he goes to meetings? Yes. But the feeling of me being pushed to the side is just that-my feeling. I have a hard time understanding my husbands alcoholism but am detaching. I used to also question when my husband was going to AA, why does he have to go so often/long?Perhaps he just hasn't had enough to wrap his mind around everything. But CONGRATS on your sobriety