Hi here & now,
It sounds like you are doing a lot of things right! It sounds like you unloaded a lot of 'truth' and change on your H. Is he still processing it?
Could you possibly try to set specific meeting block times as fall approaches?
My RAH is not particularly supportive of my Al Anon recovery. Luckily for me I found a meeting by my work and go once a week during the day.
Good luck and keep working on you!