Oh I "get you" just fine, DD. Where _I_ come from, aka the land of recovery, "love" is something that is _earned_.
I don't love my parents either. They never did anything lovable. In fact, most of what they did was despicable. However, as a result of recovery, I can now do something even _better_ than loving them.
I do not hate them.
To _not_ hate monsters that abused children, takes a whole lot more work than to love somebody that is lovable.
MIke
