It seems to be the opinion of some that those who are with alcoholics can't drink around or with the A even in moderation. Do we not eat candy if we are with diabetics? The disease is their disease not ours. I understand if we are supporting them through recovery it is out of respect we don't drink around them. He chose to sleep instead of going to his meeting...He is not invested in his treatment. I wouldn't feel too guilty about sharing that wine with your friend! That's just my honest opinion. Butterfly keep taking care of you and let your A take care of himself even if he chooses not to.