I don't see that you did anything wrong. He told you it doesn't bother him, but it obviously did and he took it out on you and thru his little tantrum. Perhpas it would be best if you could separate from each other a few months while he gets comfortable in his recovery and doesn't take it out on you? Or even worse... BLAME you (I almost got drunk last night because of the situation YOU caused, sort of thing). I don't blame you for being triggered by his sleeping all day and missing his meeting, either. And... just WHY was he sleeping all day? Hmmmmm.... (I really thought you were going to say your bottle of wine you stashed was gone)