Solo, I'm right there with you. I have attempted to talk to my h and set up boundaries. I told him that when he drinks it's a turn off and that I wouldn't have any physical relationship when he has been drinking. I have also slept on couch when I feel like it. It doesn't matter. He still attempts but I hold my ground. Just the other day, after we had another conversation about separating, he flipped his switch to being sweet and caring. Then went to drinking over the weekend and attempting a physical encounter. I held my ground. It's not easy and mainly the boundaries I keep are with myself. I am trusting myself more and realizing that it's ok that I don't have the romantic feelngs right now. I don't need anyone to validate my feelngs (hard because I am the ultimate people pleaser). I take each day as it comes and pray the serentiy prayer over and over again.
Sending you strength and peace.....maui hope